What’s Your Definition of Love?
on Feb 08 in Everyday Life, FaithWith Valentine’s Day on the horizon, I thought I’d talk briefly about the topic of love. It’s actually far more than a “topic”. It’s an all-consuming desire to experience for everyone on the face of the earth.
Floodgate Productions created this video that talks about love, romance, and action. Take a looksie…
I’m not gonna tell you anything you haven’t already thought about. But the main point is this…
At some point in our lives, we need to go beyond experiencing love as a state of being, and move into the reality of love as an intentional act of the will.
I know. I know. Could I possibly be less romantic?
In my own marriage, there have been plenty of times when my wife and I just wanted to call it quits. We always told each other that we’d never allow the “divorce” option to come up in our marriage, but in the heat of a really bad argument, it was amazing how fast that option could manifest itself.
As a result, we’ve learned over these 21 years that, if we don’t intentionally create actions of love toward one another, then we’ll never experience that one-of-a-kind feeling of being “in love”. I’m gonna be brutally honest here friends…
My marriage should have ended in divorce. My kids should have grown up to be the most screwed-up kids you’ve ever seen.
But we now sit on the other side of the crap we threw into our marriage, and you’ve gotta know something. I have a beautiful, wonderful, full-of-love marriage. And we have the three most beautiful and healthy girls you’ve ever seen.
And I promise you that the answer is the hardest thing you’ll ever hear, and the most difficult and enduring thing we’ve ever done. The answer is that we stopped viewing love as something we FEEL. Instead, we BOTH started viewing love as something we are called by God to DO.
We feel love as a result of making it happen.
What about you? What’s your definition of love?
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Absolutely! Love is a choice. People claim to fall in and out of love as quickly as they change their clothes from one day to the next. You see the nice new shirt on sale at Banana Republic, you know it will feel great and make you look great, so you buy it. You put it on the next morning and you feel like a new man. You strut around, proud of just how amazing you look in your new threads. Then lunchtime rolls around. You spill your coffee on your new shirt. It’s soiled just like the rest of your wardrobe now. You go home at the end of the day, take your shirt off and throw it into the pile of soiled clothing. The next time you are in the mall, you fall in love again with another one. That’s how many people treat relationships. They think love is that feeling. The one that validates ME. The one that makes ME feel good. Then, when the newness wears off, or the first stain manifests itself, it means we have fallen out of love. When will people learn that love is a CHOICE. It doesn’t always feel good. Jesus LOVED the world so much, that he left his throne in heaven so that he could become mortal and DIE on our behalf! I’m sure that didn’t FEEL good at all…but it’s the absolute GREATEST love story in all of human/heavenly history.